Dean and I have spent the past few days resting and doing indulgent things we wouldn’t normally do. Here’s how we’ve been caring for ourselves after the miscarriage…
Caring for Ourselves After a Miscarriage:
- Staying up until 1am.
- Sleeping in until 10 or 11am.
- Getting a head massage.
- Eating red velvet cheesecake.
- Inhaling rolls and rolls of sushi.
- Drinking way too many glasses of expensive Cakebread wine.
- Watching Chopped All Stars.
- Watching The Place Beyond the Pines with eye candy Ryan Gosling and Bradley Cooper.
We appreciate everyone who has commented and supported us. My friend sent me the sweetest email (I excerpted below), asking to add my name to a prayer that’s read at her synagogue. This gesture has meant the world to me, as I know we would not be able to get through this dark time without our friends and family, the support of so many wonderful communities, and prayer.
“In Judaism there is a prayer call the mi shebarach. It is said at several services throughout the week to send love and healing to those who are suffering, sick, or in pain. In the middle of the prayer a list is read that includes those in the community for whom the prayer is relevant. If you want, I would love to add your name to the list that is read at my synagogue. If you want more info about the prayer.”
Lastly, I want to include a song shared by Lizzi who blogs at Considerings. I had never heard of the song I Will Carry You by the Christian band Selah, but it’s the same title of a book written by the wife of a Selah band member. They lost their baby daughter hours after she was born. Her heartbreaking story helped me through my first miscarriage.
I heard that song on Lizzi’s page and it is truly beautiful tribute. Can’t even imagine, but still really just a lovely song. I am glad you too are taking sometime for yourselves to heal. And again please know you have been in my thoughts and prayers.
I’m so glad that you are taking care of yourselves right now. I guess that is really all you can do..
Aw no I’m gonna get set off again! *hugs and cries*
Glad you’re looking after yourself, indulging and doing as you want to as much as possible. Keep doing that.
And look after one another as well. I know that bit’s *slightly* more manageable the second time around (and how I truly HATE having to say that, for both of us) and it will help a lot.
Glad to hear an update. Keep on taking good care of you x
The mi shebarach is such a beautiful prayer; I get goosebumps every time it is sung at our temple. Bless those in need of healing – the renewal of the body and spirit. I’m glad you and Dean are taking care of yourselves. xoxo
I am so sorry! I don’t really have any words…so I am sending you a virtual hug. I’m so very sad for you right now. Please know you’ll be in my thoughts and prayers. I’m glad you are taking care of yourselves…hopefully it will help with the healing.
I am so glad that you guys are taking the time to take care of yourselves. That’s exactly what you need to do. Please know that you have people all over who are thinking of you. We love you!! –Lisa
I am so sorry for your loss.
You deserve to eat as much sushi & red velvet everything as your heart desires!!
Sending positive thoughts & warm wishes your way. xox
I’m so sorry to hear the news. I don’t have words of wisdom or anything like that. You are brave to share your experiences on your blog.
Oh Catherine, that song – and especially the story that went with it – just ripped my heart out. But I am so glad you are finding people and stories that help you feel connected to others. You aren’t alone. And neither are your two angels. Lots and lots of love to you and Dean. XO