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Why Do Guys Date Girls Who Barely Speak English?

Dean and I encountered a couple the other day that really made me question some people’s common sense. The guy was white, average-looking, really outgoing and friendly. His companion was Asian, tall, average-looking, smiled a lot, and barely spoke English.

Our interactions consisted of this guy translating what people were saying back to his girlfriend by waving his hands animatedly and speaking slowly and loudly. Dean joked, “There were times I thought he was going to get his sketchpad out or that we were going to play a game of charades.”

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Why do guys date girls who barely speak English? I remember a friend telling me that he dated a flight attendant that he met on an Asian airline. He said it was hard for him to understand her, but they got around it, and ended up dating for a year. Ummm…excuse me?

I guess another corollary is: Why do smoking hot runway models marry ugly billionaires? It’s all a matter of trade-offs and acceptability. Maybe he’s ugly…but hell, he’s rich and will secure the rich lifestyle I’m used to leading since I can’t make money modeling anymore.

Same with guys who date girls who can’t speak English. Maybe I can’t understand what she’s saying, but I think she’s cute and hence I don’t care about communicating! Conversation is so over-rated!

Does anyone else find this type of attraction strange? A relationship based on looks versus brains? Note: I’m not saying that this Asian girl we met was dumb just because she doesn’t speak English. I am only trying to wrap my head around why so many guys date girls they cannot communicate with. It’s like this perfectly acceptable dating phenomenon (men with mutes) which I simply don’t get.

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  1. Cece @Mahogany Drive

    April 24, 2015 at 1:35 pm

    They are speaking the language of love!! lol

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    • Catherine

      April 24, 2015 at 9:00 pm

      oui oui!

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  2. Janine Huldie

    April 25, 2015 at 5:41 am

    I truly couldn’t tell you, but the translating part would have probably gotten to me after awhile as I am not a patient person to be honest (but that’s just me).

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  3. Dana

    May 4, 2015 at 9:05 am

    I don’t get it either. Your post reminded me of a Friends episode when Joey was saying that you have to date someone within your range of attractiveness…a “4” can date a “3” or a “5,” but not an “8.” I do see seemingly mismatched couples sometimes and wonder. But at least they speak the same language!

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  4. Yvonne Chase

    May 4, 2015 at 2:23 pm

    Guys date girls who barely speak English or who they can’t communicate with because it gives them a sense of control. Plus, if she barely speaks English, he pretty much runs the show. In layman’s terms, he’s a punk that can’t handle a woman who is able to clearly articulate her thoughts and ideas. Her thoughts and ideas just might be above his ability to understand which would show her who he really is which would force her to exit stage left because a woman with brains and beauty certainly does not want to be with a dummy. Does any of that make sense? Some males want women they can control.

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    • Chris

      August 1, 2019 at 7:36 pm

      All these women that are commenting, should try and learn a new language and see how difficult it is; when a women wants the challenge; they accept it. Non-Verbal communication is just as important as Verbal. When you can’t speak the same language at the beginning Actions speak louder than words. People that speak the same language end up in divorce and can’t even communicate speaking the same language. I sense a lot of jealousy on this thread lol. Don’t hate. Maybe check back in 4 years, and if she speaks better English; you will understand then. A lot of men like older values, and which some but not all men respect and don’t take for granted. Enough with the hate posts. Actions speak louder than words.

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