Dean and I got married a year and one week ago – June 12, 2010. Married life is rewarding and hard! Am I one of the few who admits that it’s hard being married? We yell, we fight, I cry. We snuggle. We go to church, we pray. You can’t easily switch from being a moody depressed single person to a blissfully married, love conquers all wife. That is absolute bullshit. If there’s a couple that does not fight, I guarantee someone in that relationship is a doormat. Yes, you out there who believes your marriage is perfect. I’m calling you out. You are a doormat.
Which is why we all need a support network of family and friends. I realized yesterday after work when the weather was oh-so-fine that I couldn’t call up Marky and have a cocktail. That bastard left me for stinky polluted NYC and I practically have no friends here in this boring town. Everyone’s got their fussy brats they need to attend to. So lame. Hence the reason I get even more depressed when my friends procreate. Who will drink with me? That is the big question. I have no one!
I want all of you now to think back to your own wedding or weddings you’ve been to and who you’re still close to. I’ve been to weddings with several hundred guests. Do the bride and groom still talk to all those guests? There are a good chunk of people from our wedding who Dean and I aren’t really in touch with anymore. People haven’t bothered to keep in touch–at all. We must have had the most ghetto wedding because over 13 households did not bother to thank us. I don’t give a fuck that they didn’t give us a gift. Over 10% of our guests did not call, email, write, blog, tweet, or mention a single word of thanks after we said our good-byes in Palm Springs. Tacky, right? These thankless people include family members and people in our wedding party.
And then there are those guests who fake it, “I sent you a gift certificate. Didn’t you get it in your email?”
“Oh gosh, let me resend it.”
Then it never comes. Or people who asked if I had a designated charity like my sister did so that they could send a donation. Umm, no. No charity except the charitable honeymoon of me and Dean. Then I never heard back from them.
I think about the guests who didn’t have the means to get us a gift, who made us something heartfelt, who wrote out an endearing card. A lot of those people were helping out in the background, setting up and cleaning up throughout the wedding weekend. I guess I was waiting for that year time frame (apparently guests have a year to give something to the bride and groom) to give them the benefit of the doubt, only to determine it’s the same unavailable thankless people, one year later.