A friend of mine who will probably remain single for life asked me last week if I missed being single. Without hesitation, I said, “No way.”
I felt like that reply was contrary to everything I stood for–which was live life to the fullest, whether you’re single or married, healthy or sick. Do what makes you happy. If sitting on your couch reading classic literature makes you happy, then do that.
But the problem with being single is that you don’t know when singledom will end. If you knew, for a fact, that in two years you’d find a soulmate and be blissfully committed for life, you’d actually enjoy every single day of being single. But the conclusion is one big question mark. And let’s face it, most people do not want to live out the rest of their lives by themselves.
It’s kinda like being unemployed. Yeah, how great would it be if you could wake up late, travel around the world, then miraculously end up with a job upon your return. That would be ideal. But you don’t know how long you’ll be using up your unemployment benefits. You have no idea whether or not you’ll be dipping into your 401k. So you’re freaked the fuck out. You don’t want to go out with your friends. You don’t want to leave the house. You don’t want to spend a single penny.
That’s the same way with being single. If you knew you had to withstand 5 losers and 50 dates to find your lifelong mate, then all of those experiences would be rather enjoyable and quite laughable. Live for the moment! But if that’s all questionable, then you’re wondering if you dressed well, if you’re asking all the right questions…
You can’t enjoy the moment so you scrutinize and analyze. That’s not fun at all. So no, I don’t miss being single. No I don’t miss being unemployed. It’s like the market; the market hates uncertainty.