Catching up with a friend yesterday during lunch at Mercedes Hair of the Dog cantina on Commercial Avenue, I got to hear this story (one of many dating stories he told me during the hour).
So I started doing the online thing. OK Cupid. I’m not ready for Match yet. I hear it’s overwhelming and OK Cupid is free so I figured why not, right? I met this really cute girl. Smart, funny. Totally got along over email. Well we met up on Monday for a date at Amelie and it’s totally on. Sparks, serious chemistry. Had a great time. We ended up going back to my place. More drinks. We started making out. It got really heavy. We didn’t have sex, but you know, it was just wild. I asked when we could hang out again and she said she’s going out of town later on this week. So I asked if we could hang out the next night. I figured that wasn’t too forward of me since she’s going out of town anyway so no big deal. We had a great time, so let’s hang out the next night. Right? Well she said no, because she had work to do.
So last night I’m walking around my neighborhood. I pass Tonic–you know that bar on the corner of Polk and Union. And there she was in the window making out with some other guy!
I busted up laughing. As much as my friend liked this girl, I knew he wouldn’t consider my laughter vindictive. It was more a laugh of camaraderie since he’s been through the dating ringer–and we have all been there.
Early on (like in your twenties), you just throw your heart out there. I remember thinking, oh there’s something about this guy. He’s kind, he’s generous, he’s into me! Then a week later on a Saturday night you bump into him at Backflip trying to pick up on some girl at the bar. Ouch.
After that you become resilient, as my friend did who laughed when he finished up his story. Your date from the previous night is macking in front of your very eyes and it’s like, I can handle this. No biggie. Welcome to the ‘live for today’ world of dating. Last night was fun. Tonight’s another night.