Well the deadline passed and there are a lot of invited guests who simply didn’t care to respond. It’s very very rude.
I’m apt to revoke their invite.
I’ve been told to be calm about it. Try to contact them and see what happened.
The fact is, I gave them a chance. One week prior to the deadline, I reminded people who hadn’t responded that the deadline was coming up and I expected a response in the mail by then. Like I said, the deadline has come and gone.
It makes my blood boil. Why do I want to spend my hard-earned money for someone to have a great meal, booze, and entertainment if they can’t be bothered to drop a postcard in the mail–a postcard that is already stamped and ready to go! To me, that’s most egregious.
What’s worse, but not as bad, are people who quip “Not coming.” No apology, no excuse, no congratulations, no thank you for the invite.
It’s this RSVP process that most makes me think couples should elope. The #1 reason given for eloping is the money. I personally do not agree since our wedding is going to be perfectly fine and holds true to a budget. But what’s frustrating is the guest list. People can be really disrespectful. They don’t respond. You have to babysit the stragglers. “Are you coming? Can you please let me know? Can you please send in your RSVP?” And even after all the back-and-forths, I’m sure there are going to be people who cancel at the last minute. Very irritating!
There was something we did in b-school that I thought was so smart. In order to RSVP for an event, you had to write a check to the organizing group. When you showed up and registered for the event, the organizers would hand your check back to you. If you didn’t show up, they cashed your check. I loved it. It completely eliminated the flake factor. I wish I could have implemented this for my wedding. How tacky and yet so efficient would that have been!