I had previously blogged about ending things with someone I had been dating because he was 1) cheap, 2) cheap, and 3) cheap. This was the guy who didn’t even look at the bill; he just threw his cash down on the table and left me to resolve the total. I couldn’t stand it. I’m actually proud of myself for giving him a couple chances.
Well, I started thinking about him again. But not for me!
Through Burning Man, I crossed paths with an old friend of mine from the startup days. She is a shift lead at the Café and I had recently taken on the Café Theme Art Coordinator position. After a few Café meetings, I couldn’t get the two of them out of my head. I thought they were perfect for each other. Rachel is really fun, interesting, smart, and funny. I always thought she was a really good person. She’s a few years older than me and she just doesn’t seem the type to care whether someone paid or not. Dan is also the same way: an actor, smart, interesting, but cheap. Well, you can’t have it all…now can you. I started with Rachel and told her I had someone in mind for her. I didn’t mention that we had dated. She thanked me and said she was flattered. Of course she was interested.
Next step, ask Dan. So here is the email.
Hi Dan! Long time no talk.
I know this is going to be somewhat strange, but I was wondering what your relationship status is and if you would consider a setup with a friend of mine. My friend Rachel is a couple years older than me, tall, blonde, beautiful girl—my complete opposite! More than that, she is a really beautiful girl inside: confident, very friendly, determined, fun and funny. I can’t say enough good things about her. I have been thinking about the two of you for a couple months now. I really think you would hit it off.
Let me know your thoughts. We are both very involved with Burning Man. I head up in a week and will be in the desert through Labor Day. I’m happy to make an introduction when we are both back in the land of reality. She was flattered when I mentioned it…just waiting to get your thoughts. I can even send you pictures since she’s on Facebook. You need to get on it, too!
Hope you are very well and enjoying this wonderful summer,
This was his response.
I am very glad to know that you are well and thriving, and am indeed surprised to hear from you… Especially in this context, as I got the distinct impression from your last message (and lack of reply to mine) that you had formed a rather shallow, and less than optimum, opinion of me. I admit to having found this a bit disturbing, as I had considered you a person of quality and had hoped we would be friends – but I also know that what people think is based on their personal experience and, for the most part, out of my control.
That said, with regard to your friend Rachel, I am certainly open to an introduction if you both are… In addition to always being open to meeting quality new people – and I am at the moment romantically unattached — I inherently believe you to be sincere and respectful, and am impressed by your deference to your friend. She sounds very much like someone it would be a pleasure to meet.
Photos are welcome, but not necessary – I will look forward to hearing from you on your return. (I can supply mine as well.) Just please note that I am in rehearsal for a musical production that goes up in September, so my availability is a bit limited for the near future.
Please forward my best regards to Rachel, and I wish you both a good time…
After a few exchanges, Dan and I sorted out the tension. Burning Man is now over. And I have put them in touch with each other. I’m crossing my fingers it will work out marvelously. Either way, I am expecting to be repaid in lots of romantic karma.