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Seeking Advice

This was his response.  Would love to get your opinion.

Catherine–
Glad to know you are back safely–from any and all major cities…I envy your Paris experience–it’s always great to hear anyone say they feel they’ve experienced the best of something.
As for our hanging out together, I am sorry to hear that I disappointed you…I am honestly taken aback by your judgment of me.
I am trying to read between the lines–so forgive me for any misinterpretation–but I am assuming that your disappointment over check splitting is due to the fact that you don’t believe a woman should pay while on a (romantic) date (?).  Proceeding under this assumption, I’m not sure what to say…
Most important, I suppose, is that I honestly have not felt you were interested in me romantically.  I am very attracted to you (on a number of levels), yet based on your reactions I was fairly sure that friendship was your goal–though I would certainly value you on that level as well.
If you are talking to your guy friends about me I suppose I should be flattered to some degree that you felt me worthy of discussion, but I am also definitely at a disadvantage because you have to successfully communicate with me on the subject…I would certainly appreciate a chance to understand the ‘logic’ you refer to below, and the chance to know you better.  If you have any interest in that (or not), please let me know soon so I know whether to save a ballet ticket for you.
Chaleureusement,
Dan

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  1. sparkledyke

    May 21, 2008 at 3:42 am

    my $.02:

    well ‘fess up;) If you are interested in him romantically then tell him so and give him another chance to make it up to you.

    As a thirty something queer woman (me) who has dated a few, I believe that everybody needs a second chance or two 😉 Life cannot be absolute. You never know who you will meet, once we leave our ‘dating conditions’ parked at the front door.

    If he is a nice guy and is willing to rectify the situation, then what is holding you back?

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  2. Anupam

    May 26, 2008 at 9:29 am

    On the other hand, he has no confidence – thats why he didn’t pay.
    In that sense, he sounds kinda weak.

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  3. Mrs. J

    May 28, 2008 at 6:52 pm

    You once told me you like men. MEN. As in, the non-metero, makes his own decisions, chivalrous, etc. beefcake kind of men. It doesn’t mean he’s a neanderthal who thinks women are inferior.

    Clearly, Dan is not your kind of man.

    🙂

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