Talent Inequality

The other night, we watched a friend of ours perform at a theater that was two blocks away from where we live. Had never heard of the Virago theater which is located next to Ruby Skye. We even passed right by it, the building was so discreet. We also got lost trying to find what floor it was on because there was no signage.

I’ve said during the course of my blogging life that I’m happy to support any of my friends, whether that’s cheering them on at a marathon, reading their blogs, attending a concert, whatever creativity they want to share with me, I’m all in.

I have pretty low expectations because we all have our professional jobs and have limited time to practice our craft. If I had 40 hours a week to write, I would be a damn better writer, that’s for sure. But for the most part, I tend to be pleasantly surprised with these events. I’ve seen a friend in a couple plays at the Shelton theater (literally one block away from us) and he was excellent.

When I heard about our friend’s show Zombie Vixens from Hell, again, I figured it was a production that’s mainly for friends and family. I was wrong again. This world premiere musical (created by this theater) so exceeded my expectations, I turned to Dean after the first song and raved, “This is a hundred times better than American Idiot!” There was a well thought out plot, the music was engaging, the acting and singing were superb, it was funny and touching and completely memorable. The show sold out several nights.

Watching our friend sing and dance (which I had no idea she did), I was proud and rather bemused reading her bio. She’s tall, slender, attractive and a doctor and she can sing and dance. Like, hello God, maybe you got a little carried away?

Which got me thinking about baseball phenom Buster Posey and how he postponed his baseball career because he wanted to finish college and did so graduating with honors or on the Dean’s List or some brainiac craziness that should never go hand in hand with athletic prowess. I mean, is that even fair?

Every person should have the good and the bad: the runway model who can’t spell her name, the suicidal genius, the musician with a heroin addiction. This talent balance usually holds true. Madonna can’t really sing. Adelle doesn’t dance. Lady Gaga’s a hermaphrodite. I jest, I jest. Beautiful Rihanna is a bad judge of character. Stevie Wonder’s blind.

Then there are the exceptions, like the liberal arts major who was in my organic chemistry lab to fulfill a breadth requirement and was acing it, bringing up the curve and making it harder for the rest of us science majors. Or the renowned actor James Franco who has a handful of graduate degrees. Enough already! Or Natalie Portman who’s an Academy Award winner, a Harvard grad, and naturally beautiful. Absolute injustice!

I’ve thought that these people have been blessed and happen to be more talented, more creative than the rest of us. Maybe God has been selectively unfair and has surreptitiously doled out more talent to certain humans.

Could it be, though, that these people who espouse a multitude of talents simply believe in themselves and are so confident in what they can accomplish that they continue to succeed over and over and over? Maybe that’s what it is. And if so, I need to give that a try.

Unfortune 500

You know how they have the Fortune 500? They should have a list that they call the Unfortune 500 for the top worst companies in the nation. At the top of the list? Kaiser Permaneglecte

I know I continue to bash Kaiser, but honestly they cannot get anything right. I’ve been requesting that they fill out Family Medical Leave Act forms that I can submit to my employer so I don’t feel guilty taking blocks of time off work to scientifically conceive a baby. They neglected to fill the forms out, leaving whole pages of the forms completely blank. I brought this to their attention and they assured me they would take care of it.

I have to add that they also never notify me. I have to be proactive and call, “Are my FMLA forms complete? Can I pickup my forms yet?”

I find out that they’re ready. I go to Kaiser in the middle of the work day (imagine riding the 38 Geary for at least an hour) and head directly to the medical records office. I swear to God the guy who works in medical records sees me so often, I don’t even need to sign the clip board anymore. They hand me my forms sealed in an envelope. Very sneaky, Kaiser! I open them up to make sure I have what I need and again, THERE ARE PAGES OF THE FORMS STILL NOT FILLED OUT. All they did was take the forms that I screamed were incomplete and friggin resealed them in an envelope. Can you understand my frustration? Do you see the idiocy?

I ERUPTED. “THESE FORMS ARE STILL NOT COMPLETE. DOES ANYONE DO THEIR JOB AROUND HERE?”

The man tried to soothe me, “Ma’am, I don’t fill out the forms.”

“WELL WHO DOES? WHAT IS YOUR JOB IF YOU CAN’T HELP ME GET WHAT I NEED. WHAT DO YOU DO? SERIOUSLY, WHAT IS YOUR JOB?”

He braced himself, “You should contact the person who fills out the forms if they aren’t right.”

“DO YOU THINK THEY’VE ATTACHED THEIR BUSINESS CARD TO THIS FORM? HUH? DO YOU THINK I CAN JUST PICKUP THE PHONE AND CALL THIS PERSON? HOW WOULD I CONTACT THIS PERSON?!”

He gets on the phone and places a call, speaking nervously, “Hey, can you pull up medical record number 4134248? Look, you have to answer all the questions. It seems that the form’s incomplete.”

When he got off the phone, he looked at the floor, “They should be done in a day or so.”

Simmering, I ordered him to give me the medical correspondent’s phone number. I walked out of Kaiser, called, got her voicemail, and ranted like a madwoman.

Money Monday: You Are Being Deceived

The day before the 4th of July holiday, I went to court and my $480 red light ticket citation was dismissed because the officer was a no-show. I was told in court that my refund check would be mailed to me within 4-6 weeks. It’s 4 months later. About a month ago, I called the court and asked, “WHERE THE FUCK IS MY MONEY?” I exaggerate as I was actually pretty polite.

The court attendant said, “Oh, yes, let me go ahead and put that through.”

“Wait, you’re telling me that I had to call in order for the refund to go through?”

“Well, we’re backlogged, it would have come to you eventually.”

People, we are being deceived. Do not be victim. I am fanatical about money owed, money due, money in arrears, however you want to spin it. Do not make a ‘mental note’ of money due. You will forget. Put it in your calendar. Tattoo it to your index finger.

Once when I went shopping at Target, it seemed like every item was on sale. As I picked up these sale items and put them in my cart, I wrote down the sale price in my notebook. While checking out, I watched as the cashier rang everything up at full price. “Wuh, wuh, wait a second. That cereal was on sale for $2. And those batteries, they should be $8.99. This is all wrong.” Target had never entered the sale prices into their system so everything was ringing up regularly-priced. I had a conniption. “This is ridiculous. What a waste of my time. You know what’s worse? All your hard-working customers who think they’re getting a deal and you’re gouging them with regular prices!”

We all need to watch our back and be hyper-diligent about what we’re paying…grocery shopping, the municipal court system, our health care system. Fucking Kaiser. Don’t be a victim.

Why I Am Voting for Obama

I am an independent voter and an independent thinker. I do not align myself with any party and hence do not vote along party lines. For many years, I was a registered Republican. I have never been a Democrat. I would hate to have to choose between either party because I dislike both.

I have wavered throughout this campaign because choosing between the two candidates seemed more to do with identifying the lesser of two evils than selecting a president you can really stand behind. I can say very firmly now that Obama has more integrity and will be a better leader than Romney.

Let me preface that yes, Obama has let this country down. Absolutely, he has not fulfilled the promises of his 2008 race. But I will say that throughout his term, he has been a president who cares about the 100%, someone who stands up for women’s rights, someone who fights for immigrant rights. He cares about everyone. Moreover, Obama has continually lived a life of service in government.

Romney is a successful man who doesn’t know what else to do with his life so he’s setting his sights on the presidency. He’s made his riches. What else is the man going to do? He does not have the background to lead this country. He was governor for 4 years. That’s it. Obama has been in government since the beginning of time.

Romney will lie and do anything to get votes. Let me give you an example. Romney has changed his abortion stance so many times that Ted Kennedy called him multiple choice. Romney’s current ads feature a woman saying that Romney is in favor of abortion in select situations. Yet in the past, he has been on record for stating he would outlaw abortion altogether. Is this a man that you want to see as president? Someone who is constantly flip-flopping to garner more votes?

Let’s take another example. Romney has been saying that jobs in the auto industry are being moved to China because of Obama’s bailout. That is bullshit. Such bullshit that both CEOs at General Motors and Chrysler have publicly called him out on his lies! Read the paper, people. This guy is trying to pull the wool over your eyes. Here is a recent Ohio headline, “Romney’s GM and Chrysler ads are an insult to Ohioans.”

Romney told his wealthy donors that 47% of Americans are victims who are dependent on government. After he was caught making this disparaging remark, he said he didn’t mean it in that context, then later said the remarks were completely wrong. Which is it? Do you stand by your word or do you not? Sure every campaign is going to have a few missteps, but ‘binders full of women,’ and ‘women should have time to go home and cook dinner for their families.’ Is this man out of touch or what?! Do you think Obama would ever say, I understand that women like my wife Michelle should have time to go home and cook for me and the kids. This is one misstep too many and I am sick of it.

Whoever is elected president will have the power to appoint supreme court justices. If Romney is elected he will select ultra-conservative justices who move to overturn Roe vs Wade. Women, are you aware of this? Do you see that our rights are slowly being taken away by right-wing conservatives? Don’t let this happen. Ensure that the Supreme Court is at least a little bit balance. It is already skewed to the right.

These are trying times. There is no panacea, no president who is going to solve all of America’s problems in 4 years. But do you want another 4 years akin to George W. Bush’s presidency? My God! Please say no. Do the right thing. Vote for Obama.

Prayers

I have been haunted by the Krim family tragedy, two siblings stabbed to death by their nanny, a mother discovering her murdered children. I’ve bolted awake in the middle of the night in severe anguish over their violent deaths. Nothing else to say except how absolutely devastating this must be for a family. It’s a tragedy that supercedes all else. I pray for them every day, that they may find peace.

Fashion Friday: Halloween 2012

We went to the Ghost Ship Halloween party this weekend at Hangar 3 in Treasure Island. Space Cowboys throw the most amazing parties. Since I didn’t go to Burning Man this year, I was itching to go dancing. And dance we did for 5 straight hours. I’ve got it all out of my system now :)

We will be jet setting over NYE, but for the locals, the Breakfast of Champions party at club Mighty on New Year’s Day is one crazy party.

Dean dressed up as Hunter S. Thompson. He looked great. A lot of people congratulated him on nailing it. I was Robin (like Batman & Robin). The company I bought the costume from accidentally sent me a small kids size instead of the large. I freaked out when I opened the package up. It was teensy. But Dean cut it up and sewed it onto a red tank top for me. He is the domestic one in the family!

There was a fake, but real-looking bull that they hooked onto a pulley system and raised up and down during the party. A friend was looking for us and I texted, “Dude, they are raising a bull near us.” He found us straight away.

Alcohol Binge

Did anyone read the article in the WSJ last week on the unhealthy concentration of bacteria on cell phones? It reminded me of my high school biology class and testing the amount of fecal coliform bacteria we found around the classroom (writing instruments, backpacks, the stools we were sitting on). Anyhow our findings back in the ’90s by a bunch of teenagers were pretty disgusting. The current research by real scientists discussed in the WSJ was even worse.

1 unit of coliform bacteria per 100ml is the limit in drinking water. From a randomly-selected test of cell phones taken from a Chicago office, the research indicated levels between 2,700 -4,200 units. Yuck! These levels lead to diarrhea, pink eye, and all sorts of maladies.

You know what I did this weekend? I thoroughly swabbed with rubbing alcohol our cell phones, keyboards, door knobs, handles…anything that normally doesn’t get cleaned but is touched often. Alcohol is proven to be 100% effective. Note that Apple and Blackberry on their user manuals strictly prohibit liquids (including alcohol) on their products. If you’d rather follow instructions and get sick, follow the rules. I, however, will be on an alcohol binge.

Le Diner a San Francisco

Last Friday we went to the Le Diner a San Francisco event. These all white dinner parties are held world-wide. Pasting in some pictures I found on the web.

I’m not a photographer so no picture I take will do the event justice, but according to the event organizers, the most recent one in San Francisco was the largest pop up dinner event in the country. A ticket scores you the location and a seat at a table. The location is revealed at 3pm the day of the event, at 5pm the event opens up for you to scout out a spot, then at 7pm dinner begins. You are responsible for seats, silver ware, center pieces, lighting, and food (i.e., everything). They suggest prepping as if you’re hosting a real dinner party, meaning you need to have appetizers, a main course, dessert and wine.

The event at the Marina Green would have been fun if it weren’t for the bitter cold weather. Sad considering the night before, we were walking around outside in t-shirts. It was pretty amazing to see how creative people got with their tables. Our table had amazing food that we purchased from Sweet Woodruff and wine from St. Supery. We danced in front of the French band, then got picked up in a town car thanks to Uber. The night ended with Scrabble and more wine back at our house.

SF is a fun place to live! Always something to experience every night of the week.

Potrero Hill

Ok, this is the last post I’ll write about Potrero Hill since last night was our last night. It actually reminds me of Alameda. For those of you who haven’t been to my hometown, it’s the type of city where kids caravan into for Halloween. Residents really get into the spirit and love passing out candy to the kids. I plan on going to my folks’ place on Halloween night to do exactly that.

Potrero Hill is in San Francisco where there are more dogs than kids so it’s not going to have that same holiday vibe, but it’s just so adorably residential with the mish mash of older and modern style homes that are smudged next to each other, but different looking with incredible views of downtown. Unlike Potrero Hill, Alameda is flat, but now that I’m older I can definitely see why people choose to live in Alameda. It’s cute and it has character–just like the Potrero Hill neighborhood.

Last night, we went to Ruby Wine Merchant and experienced a flight of unbelievable French wine. For those of you who know me, I stick to California wine like a fly on shit. I do not veer. I do not look at international wines. I go straight down the wine list and hone in on ‘California,’ ‘Sonoma,’ ‘Napa,’ ‘San Luis Obispo.’ But the wines we tasted last night were exceptional at unbelievably reasonable prices for the quality. If you go, you must say hello to the resident black French bull dog. Exactly the type of dog I want.

We’re off to Plow for brunch, then back home to Nob Hill. It’s been a fun little vacation. Bye for now, Potrero!

Money Monday: Temporary Move

We moved, temporarily, for the week! We rented our place downtown and moved into an in-law unit in Potrero Hill. I know that’s unconventional, but Dean and I live pretty lean in that we’re not tied to our belongings and quite malleable in being able to jet whenever/wherever we choose. And we made a nice big chunk of change; otherwise I wouldn’t have done it.

I felt like we were on vacation in the city, exploring a beautiful residential neighborhood. Plus the peace and quiet, what a luxury. I walked around and discovered places I would have never gone to, places that don’t turn up in general Yelp searches. We watched the first game of the World Series with friends at Dear Mom right in front of their brand new TV with $6 happy hour wine and a zesty well-priced menu. The second game we watched at family-owned Il Pirata with their plethora of HDTV and projector screens. I felt like I was at a family party, everyone kept coming up to make sure you had everything you needed. I am loving Potrero Hill!

I’ve lived in these SF neighborhoods and feel qualified to advise anyone deciding on where to live in the city—if you can afford it these days!

Panhandle

Inner Richmond

Alamo Square

Laurel Heights

Western Addition

They all have their pros and cons, but so far only pros for Potrero Hill. And the bus/Caltrain stations are a big big plus.

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