Looking forward to ringing in 2009.
Much love to you!
catherine
Posted on December 28, 2008 // Leave a Comment
Match #2
Posted on December 28, 2008 // Leave a Comment
I have to write my feedback form on Match #2 so writing this post will help me get started.
Right away, I disliked him. I disliked the summary profile that was sent over. I disliked that he called me on the last possible day. The guy is supposed to contact his match within 5 days. Sean called me the night of the 5th day. He didn’t return my call for a few days. It didn’t seem like he wanted to meetup with me at all!
I started to get suspicious, thinking my matchmaker was a fraud. ”I bet that bitch is setting me up with one of her guy friends.”
He seemed really wishy-washy when we tried to finalize a plan. ”Well is there a place you want to go? Uhhhh, do you want to meet at the restaurant or do you want me to pick you up?”
The whole time I was with him on the phone, I wanted to scream, “I WANT YOU TO PICK THE RESTAURANT. I WANT YOU TO PICK THE WINE. I WANT YOU TO PICK ME UP. I WANT YOU TO MAKE THE DECISIONS. I SPEND MY WHOLE EXISTENCE BEING AN ALPHA FEMALE AND I WOULD LIKE YOU TO BE AN ALPHA MALE, ALRIGHT?”
So he picks me up Saturday night in his pretty-boy BMW. I am not at all attracted to him and force myself to be nice. We chat about San Francisco. He grew up in San Francisco, can’t seem to make his way around, and tries to make a left turn on a street marked with signage of a left turn icon and a big X on it. Argh! No wonder he went to San Francisco State.
He’s nice enough. I could tell he’s shy and nervous; he stutters every thirtieth word. He warms up by the time we sit down for dinner at Iluna Basque in North Beach. We talk family, politics, relationships, then details about being part of a high-end matchmaking service.
I have nothing to lose and ask him all the questions I’m thinking. ”Tell me the truth. Am I a complementary date?”
He looks at me aghast as if I’ve discovered something very private. ”No, you’re not. You’re my 4th match, one of which was complementary. She’s asked to set me up with other complementary dates, but I feel like it’s just not fair to the girl or to me. So I told her to stop with the complementary stuff.”
I tell him how I know. ”I’m good friends with my 1st match and he’s been setup with a couple complementary dates. It just goes to show that she has an abundance of women and not very many men. It’s unfortunate. Anyhow, I thought I was a complementary date for you.”
“No not at all. It sucks because now you’re skeptical about who she sets you up with. I’m sorry that’s the case.”
“I think it’s fascinating. I’m going to write a book on it.”
And that’s how the date progressed. We were very open and comfortable with each other. A friend. I could be friends with him, but not someone I would even consider kissing. But I guess that’s what I thought about Bill, too, when I first met him and we ended up dating for several months.
Stay tuned, but it’s not looking good.
Posted on December 27, 2008 // Leave a Comment
Zany Facebook Connection
Posted on December 27, 2008 // Leave a Comment
I think this must be the most random message ever! Unless I am mistaken I think you were in the Alameda County spelling Bee back in 88 or 89. I don’t know why but I remember the smallest things from that day so clearly. We sat next to each other during the whole competition and had a little rivalry going, which you won. Out of 185 students I think you made it to the top ten and I was 13th. I still remember the word that got me bounced — “prestidigitation.” I wish I could spell as well as I did then.
I hope life has treated you well.
jeremiah
jeremiah
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THAT IS THE MOST RANDOM, TOTALLY COOL AWESOME CONNECTION I HAVE EVER HAD HERE ON FACEBOOK. and i’ve had some random encounters.
omigosh, jeremiah, your email made my day! i remember the rivalry. it was good to have someone to hang out with along the way. i actually got bounced not too far from you. i was 11th! one away from top 10 which was a heartbreaker. the word i misspelled was ‘caliginous.’ funny how we remember the littlest things in life. i also remember looking out into the audience and my mom who didn’t think i could spell worth crappola getting ready to leave her seat every time i was up at the mike! she seriously didn’t think i’d make it as far as i did.
you look well and happy. such a beautiful family. i have everything i’ve ever wanted in life…except the husband and kids…which is the biggest thing. hopefully one of these days.
if you are ever in sf, please let me know. would love to say howdy-hoo-haha in person.
catherine
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Wow, how titillating it is to have a long closed, forgotten, and “caliginous” avenue of your memory opened and revived. Now that you mentioned it I swear I remember that every time you would get a word right and return to your seat we would both turn around and give your mom a nice big smug 8th grader smile. Hope your mom believes and supports everything you do now that we’re “big people.”
You’re right, marriage and children are so richly fulfilling and I wish it on, I mean for, everyone:) Seriously, the surprises and smiles and laughs are never ending and priceless with the little ones. I know that where you are least likely to look you will meet Mr. Right and have some great little good-spelling monsters yourself.
Keep loving life and taking lots of pictures while doing it.
God bless and Happy New Year,
jeremiah
Posted on December 27, 2008 // 1 Comment
This Song Tells the Story
Posted on December 23, 2008 // Leave a Comment
I will tell the story soon. But for now. Read these lyrics. Missy Higgins’ Where I Stood. They tell my story.
I don’t know what I’ve done
Or if I like what I’ve begun
But something told me to run
And honey you know me it’s all or none
Or if I like what I’ve begun
But something told me to run
And honey you know me it’s all or none
There were sounds in my head
Little voices whispering
That I should go and this should end
Oh and I found myself listening
‘Cos I dont know who I am, who I am without you
All I know is that I should
And I don’t know if I could stand another hand upon you
All I know is that I should
‘Cos she will love you more than I could
She who dares to stand where I stood
See I thought love was black and white
That it was wrong or it was right
But you ain’t leaving without a fight
And I think I am just as torn inside
‘Cos I dont know who I am, who I am without you
All I know is that I should
And I don’t know if I could stand another hand upon you
All I know is that I should
‘Cos she will love you more than I could
She who dares to stand where I stood
And I won’t be far from where you are if ever you should call
You meant more to me than anyone I ever loved at all
But you taught me how to trust myself and so I say to you
This is what I have to do
You meant more to me than anyone I ever loved at all
But you taught me how to trust myself and so I say to you
This is what I have to do
‘Cos I dont know who I am, who I am without you
All I know is that I should
And I don’t know if I could stand another hand upon you
All I know is that I should
‘Cos she will love you more than I could
She who dares to stand where I stood
Oh, she who dares to stand where I stood
Posted on December 23, 2008 // Leave a Comment
A Glimpse into the Mind of a Stalker
Posted on December 22, 2008 // Leave a Comment
Jason: R u still livid?
Catherine: Yes. Very curious which ivy league is your alma mater. Let me know.
Jason: MIT undergraduate…Harvard postbaccalaureate, which was ridiculously easy compared to MIT & I did research & Harvard School of Public Health where I was offered a full scholarship to do my master’s in public health, which I turned down to take a fellowship at U of T @ Austin in engineering, which I quit part way through…and yourself?
I never responded.
Jason: I forgot…Brown U for freshman year of undergraduate before transferring to MIT. But I’ll have you know the most interesting thing about me is my litle dog, Sebastian…he’s all that and then some!!! He’s smart, funny and athletic…and he and I have the same birthday…he turns 3 in January.
Jason: So why do u care so much about where I went2school? If you hv festish4elite schools/intelligence probably more interesting is the fact tht my IQ cannot be measured on a WAIS-R inventory bc it can only measure up to 150…they say that puts me in the top 99.9% but u seem apparently over me…hwvr, i hv sum reelie smart frnds if u r looking 4a hi-iQboyfrnd…in fact, I hv one who exclusively dates Asian women if ur interested.
FREAK!!!
Posted on December 19, 2008 // Leave a Comment
