When I was doing the online dating thing, I used to complain that everyone put their best pictures out there. Or they would describe themselves as ‘Athletic and Fit.’ Uhhh, yeah, back in high school??? I mean, seriously, a picture from 10 years ago is so deceiving! My ex-boyfriend bought me a cute pink tank-top with the above saying. I love it. Everyone cracks up when they read it.
I used to put average-looking pictures out there. They weren’t my best; they weren’t my worst. One guy I dated said that I looked like I did on my profile which made me proud. At least, I hadn’t tried to deceive anyone. Even better, I loved it when guys met me and said I looked so much better in person and that my profile didn’t do me justice. Another guy I dated quipped, “You totally downplayed yourself in all of our communications.”
I was like, “I know! It’s that whole Buy Low, Sell High mentality…Underpromise, Overdeliver!!!” Common sense business principles, people!
I never spent much time on these sites. I hastily filled out the profile and subsequent follow-up questions and was always surprised at what I’d come to realize about myself, what I found important, what I was looking for. Here it is. Let me know if you meet my Prince Charming. Send him my way. I’ll be good to him, I promise.
Online Dating: My Profile
In a Nutshell
Hi, I’m Catherine. I’m a native Bay Area girl. I grew up in an immigrant household, my parents impressed upon us the importance of education and hard work, and I believe that family/faith/community are the essence of a truly inspired life. I’m spirited and fun. People enjoy my company. Bottom line: I always have a good time, I love my life, and I am genuinely happy.
I want to meet Jack Black. I love funny people. I went to a speed-dating event, met this big fat unattractive man who was friggin hilarious. He had me rolling on the floor. The only reason I submitted my form was to match up with him. You know what? He didn’t even pick me. I was devastated!!! But seriously, every girl loves a comedian. There are a number of traits I’m looking for. Some are obviously more important than others, but a combination of educated, hard-working, well-travelled, athletic, and hot!
Dinner somewhere non-romantic: a burger joint or hot dog stand or a hole-in-the-wall Chinese hut. Next up: a bar. Starting off with beer, then mixed drinks, then shots to see if he can keep up with my alcoholism. Getting totally obliterated, telling each other things you never thought you’d tell someone on a first date, making out, saying good-bye, then thinking, “Wow, that was so much fun. I hope we can see each other again soon.” This is not just the perfect first date. This is all my first dates. Seriously.
I believe that timing is everything. If I’d met my first boyfriend now, I probably would want to marry him. But back then, I just wasn’t in that mindset. Two people have to be in the right spot in their lives at the right time for their stars to collide and ignite.
Also, if you suspect that something is going wrong, you’re right. You owe it to youself to know when a person in your life is making your life better or making it worse. Own up to it and make the right decisions to always live your life the way you want with the person you want. Remember though, that that person you want has to make you feel like you are wanted too.